Love-Hounds Digest #7.373

[viewpnt!echelon!henrik@uunet.UU.NET (Larry DeLuca)]

> I think your equating "psychological force" with physical force and rape 
> is disgusting and sexist.  Anyone can say no to even the most convincing 
> argument if they really want to.  Nobody can say no to a gun or a knife.
>
> Psychological pressure cannot harm me unless there is some underlying 
> threat of physical abuse.  I don't care if someone thinks I might be 
> "frigid" or "immoral".  Their opinions cannot hurt me unless I allow them 
> to. 
> 
>
>  Melissa Caldwell                         You want my reply?
>  The Big Sky BBS (+1 614 864 1198)         What was the question?
>  {n8emr|nstar}!bluemoon!bsbbs!mdc           I was looking at the Big Sky
>  mdc@bsbbs.UUCP

Your own last sentence says it all.  However, if you read my posting more
carefully before declaring it "disgusting and sexist" you would have noticed
that I mentioned that psychological abuse and pressure were harder to
fight because they often could not be confronted directly.

I have had the unique experience of being both physically and psychologically
sexually violated in my life (on different occasions, needless to say).  After
my body healed, I found it considerably easier to get over the physical one,
because I could point to a tangible wrong that someone had done me.  It took
me a lot longer to figure out I didn't have to sleep with someone because they
were pressuring me to and I was lonely.  

Yes, in that situation I let me hurt me.  But those kind of hurts are 
still harder to deal with in many ways.

Don't assume that because I have a penis that I can't possibly understand
the weight of the words I use.  It annoys me.

					larry...