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From: katefans@chinet.chi.il.us (Chris n Vickie)
Date: Sun, 9 Feb 1992 07:06:00 -0800
Subject: An apology (*NO* flames, honest)
To: clout!wiretap.spies.com!love-hounds
Vickie here. It's a vicious circle. I get mad, shoot off at the mouth, and then apologise for my own rudeness while blasting the rudeness of others. I finally realized that it makes no sense. I said it a few days ago and I'll say it again...you won't be seeing any more posts like the last blast at Richard (though not all of it was directed at him alone, my phrase "your kind" indicated that) and therefore, you won't be seeing any more apologies like this one. It's very odd. In one group (gaffa) I'm considered a "character" who is bad-tempered and mouthy, and in another group (ecto) I'm the warm, friendly, loving, "Ecto-mom" who has never uttered a flame. Well, very rarely, a tiny glowing ember here and there, but generally I'm very perky and wordy and friendly. What's wrong with this picture? I know. On gaffa, a group that I love and am greatful for, I've let a few people get under my skin. I let my bad (but almost always dormant) temper show, and, since I an a lousy arguer, end up looking like a shrew. I don't apoligise for my opinions (which haven't changed in the slightest) but rather for my methods of flamage. My blood pressure can't take it, neither can my peace of mind. Therefore, I have put the BS-BBS folks into a mental KILL file, along with a few others, so I won't even know when they are being rude, or saying something *I* might perceive to be rude. I've read Richard's response to my blast, and I could answer it, apologising for some of the things I said, standing up for others, but I really don't feel like it. I'm not running away from it, I really just want to spare Love-Hounds from an on-going, ever-ending, flame war. It's pretty obvious that Richard and I will never agree on many things, and so why not just leave it at that. It's pretty obvious that I don't particularly like Richard or Melissa and they don't think much of me either. Strangely enough, I do like many things about Cynthia and Jon Drukman, even though both have pissed me off enormously in the past, and probably will again if I let myself get angry. I will *not* let myself. I'm much more comfortable and peaceful in the Ecto-mom-type role than in the shrew role. Gaffa is a wonderful thing. Ecto is a wonderful thing. Warmroom *can* be a wonderful thing once it really gets going, and I fully expect that it *will* be a wonderful thing. Personally, I'll keep ecto as a home base, but I'll also be reading, and occasionally posting, to gaffa and warmroom. I have no bitterness toward rec.music.gaffa/Love-Hounds because I know there are many fine and good people out there, and my personality conflicts with a few people shouldn't sour me on the entire group. It won't. So anyway, I'm rambling in an attempt to free myself of the bad feelings I've had, and that I myself have generated, in order that I may once again enjoy this group the way I used to. I owe gaffa a *LOT* and I am truly greatful that it exists. Peace, honestly, deeply and sincerely....is what I want and I'll keep my temper and mouth in check from now on. Vickie Ann Mapes "There comes a point where you have to soothe yourself" HTR "This little girl inside is retreating to her favorite place" KB "I'm bound by the beauty" JS